Husband and I went to our first LS club in June where we met this couple (couple A). 3 weeks later we had a soft swap with them. 4 weeks later we met another couple (couple B) and had our first full swap with the new couple. Both are in the same city that is 3 hours away from us but the closet club to our home. While we were with couple B, they told us that they knew couple A. We did not mention couple A to them. They brought up the subject. Seems couple A called to ask couple B what they had planned for the weekend and couple B said they were meeting new friends. Somehow couple A figured out it was us. It’s a pretty small community around here.

I’m sure this happens fairly often in this circle of friends. But somehow, I feel a little guilty. I don’t know why. We tried to make plans with couple A before we messaged couple B, but they already had plans for that night.

So, how does this work in the lifestyle? Am I thinking with a “vanilla” brain? I think as couples, we had a better connection with couple B, but I really feel a connection with lady A. I am not bi, but lady A and I had my first ff interaction and I just felt relaxed with her. And we talk on the phone about once a week. I could not hook up with lady B. It just wasn’t happening for me. But it was a go for my husband with lady B and me with hubby B.

So where do we go from here? What if we want to meet up with one couple and run into the other couple? I really don’t know how to handle the situation. I think my husband would prefer to meet up again with couple B. He had a better experience with B. But he sees my connection as friends with lady A.

Am I overthinking this? How should we proceed? Any advice from experienced people?