Sorry this is so long. We aren't exactly new to all this but certainly are not very experienced. We are both attractive. Our schedule and situation doesn't allow us to play often but everytime we do we get flaked on or the experience is lacking. We live in a small town an hour away from any major city so it's hard to host or find someone in the specific area we are going. Just last weekend we went out. For 2 weeks leading up to it we talked to several couples about joining us. All seemed very interested and then it never fails. They vanish. And I know every couple deals with this but it still is frustrating when we only get like 4 nights out a year and all of them are busts or not the ideal situation. The last 3 experiences we had were mmf. The 1st the guy was 3 hours late. We fell asleep waiting. But once it all started it was alot of fun and we went for a few hours. He left and said we would do it again. Then he never responded back. So then we find another guy a few months later. Got a room. Inwent to the car to get all the drinks came back and they were doing it which I thought was hot. But she later told me it was semi forced and that she was uncomfortable but didn't want to stop or say anything and he was being too rough. Anyway he lasted about 5 min. Got dressed and left. This last time it was a desperation post since everyone else bailed. Attractive fit guy shows up in 15 min. He lasted about 10 min then couldn't stay hard. Apologized Got dressed and left saying he wanted a redo and that he fucked twice that day which he didn't tell us before. Now the wife is super upset and thinks she's the problem so she is having 2nd thoughts. We aren't fully in the lifestyle( mainly because of the lack of success) and she isn't ready for a party or club. Hell we don't even like regular clubs. Ideally we were wanting 1 couple around our age to be real friends with not just play. Everytime we think we might find it, something goes wrong. So does anyone have any advice other than to go to clubs? We don't want to be bed hoppers.No offense to the people that are it's just not our thing. She's definitely not ready for clubs and also hear about alot of creeps going. We are on here and also a pay site but honestly that site kinda sucks.
We don't look for young either. We go 10 below and above our age due to similar lives and interests.
We are in Hill County. Not country. Lol
And thanks.
Thank you. You are the only one so far not being snarky.
Been doing this for over 10 years. Just seems way worse than it use to be.
Cool. Thanks. Still learning. Alot going on there and hard to navigate.
We were just told about that a few days ago and joined. Checking out before we pay. But I love the whole verification part. But still get the single guys messaging already when the profile says no guys. Lol they are everywhere.
Again, if someone isn't willing to fully schedule it and just want to meet and play with randos, they aren't for us. We are going out on a specific date. We posted that date in the post. We are also very specific, like where we are going and looking for. If you can't make it, that's fine. Why even respond. Why say yes then dissappear?
And yes, i know she was assaulted. She didn't tell me till 2 days later. She seemed to enjoy it at the time. After he left we kept going for like an hour and she didn't seem bothered. She even asked if i could find someone else because it was a let down. WeDid it again in the morning and nothing was said. .that was a year ago so we are trying again with just a couple.
Oh I gotcha. Yeah it can be exciting. But then there is that feeling tgst they aren't gonna show up. Lol
I got plenty thick of skin. Nothing really phases me except seeing my wife hurt and upset. And we've been looking for this over 3 years now.
The problem is we have to plan everything in advance. Kids, work, extra curriculars. And we are mainly looking for people in the same boat or at least understanding in that respecr. You are right 2 weeks is a long time. But if it's too long for them then they aren't the right couple for us. People buy tickets to a.concert 4 months in advance. Do they decide to not go because it was too long of a wait?
I posted because I can. Don't see why you have a problem with that. And then you have nothing else to complain about so you say I had multiple run on sentences. What the fuck does that have to do with anything? Besides, there were none. Punctuation was fine and i don't think you know what a run on sentance is. If you are upset because you feel like the post was against you that's a you problem and now you are grabbing at straws. t will happen eventually. Again no rush. But we have the right to be perturbed at the fact that there are so many fakes and flakes. I see several posts a day from others saying the same thing but you want to get made at mine?
Those events never are happening when we are available and are way too far anyway. Hell most I see are on a Thursday night and we have talked to people in the LS that don't like them. That's not happening. We aren't desperate. Just don't understand how there are so many fakes and flakes now. We plan our nights out based on what we actually want to do. Not playing. But if we can play at the same time that's fine. Like someone that wants to do the same thing. We are going to a concert. If someone can come hang out there thats great. But those are our plans. We are open and precise about what we are doing and specifically say we are not going to meet elsewhere. But we aren't going to drive an hour or 2 to go to a place we know we won't like, in a city we really dont like, to hang out with people we don't know anything about and probly have nothing in common. Thats why we look online. We arent here to just fuck anyone. We could do that no problem but would probly be let down again. I mean, it's s like you haven't even read any of our comments.
That's fine. We know that and are not in a rush at all. I just have a problem with all those flakes.
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So your advice is to settle or do something we dont want to do? That's called peer pressure and we aren't having it. I'm not blaming anyone except the people that literally said they would meet then didn't. How is that our fault? 2 days before they said they would be there. Then they went radio silence, didn't show up, and have not responded in 2 weeks now. So instead of throwing shade and criticizing us, you should count your blessings.