Is he in my personal space, or am I lame?

TLDR: (I, bi female half of couple) Went on a first time meetup with another couple with my husband. The male half of that couple found every opportunity to get close to me like hand on knee, touching my shoulders, sitting very closely and I'm not sure if this is normal or am I too reserved?

Backstory: so my husband and I have been talking with this couple for a couple weeks and finally had a chance to meet up with them at a large public sporting event, we all had seats together and sat her, him, me, hubby.

(To be clear I think both the wife and husband are attractive)

The guy was nice enough, but as the night went on it seemed like he kept finding ways to try and get close….like smooth close. For example we were having small chat and he'd place his hand on my knee, or scoot over ever so close to me which made me uncomfortable, not to mention I can only imagine how it looked to those sitting behind us. (Yes. I know hindsight, speak up! But....) after the event we went to a bar where I sat across from him and next to my husband, and my husband across from his wife.

My husband was really engaging with the wife and they seemingly had an awesome convo going and I really wanted to join that conversation as the other husband started to show his love of alcohol and the more he drank the less classy he became, like he was so loud and had no filter, and I kept giving him passes on his behavior because he was ok before the night started so I figured he was nervous and had too much to drink or something. Also being bi, I was attracted to his wife and wanted to get to know her more but it felt like he was cock blocking me lol.

What really caught me off guard was I had a cocktail with a salted rim and after taking a sip he reached over and wiped the salt off the corner of my lip. Like, Ummmmm I can do that myself.

So how do the females feel about engagement like this out in public. What kind of touching is acceptable to you.

Today I'm struggling if this guy pushed boundaries, has no respect for them, or maybe most women would have been flattered by his advances towards me. Help!