We approached a couple at the club last night that was hot af. We sat and talked to them for a while, good conversation but it was early so the night kind of moved on. We saw them several times throughout the night and decided since we approached the first time, if they wanted to play we’d let them approach the second time.
That never happened. We moved on. Found some other great people, funnier, more confident, more playful. Worked out well for us.
But saw the hot af couple pretty much by themselves the whole night. They didn’t look like they were having too much fun even though they told us they’d been in the lifestyle for two years.
So my question is, how often do you think nerves comes across as lack of interest?
We’re new, so still trying to find the line of communicating “we’d like to fuck” without coming across as pushy.
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Came here to make a similar point. My wife and I very much enjoy our local club, but we very seldom meet people and play on night one. We do play with other couples, but we kinda like to feel out way into things slowly.
We do enjoy making connections, chatting, dancing, watching, being watched, etc. we also know that some people are definitely looking to meet people and play that night, so we try to be respectful of other’s time. It’s a delicate balance, but we try to be direct about it.