So I want to introduce the LS to my wife and I (M26) (F 24) I’m not really looking to swing or be with other people/couple’s but I feel like it would be fun to go to Secret’s and people watch maybe do our own fun poolside while other’s watch. I do not have a desire to watch her with others and vise versa. But we have been together for 10 years and have kids, so I feel as something new may be fun. Im not against her seeing other men naked or better shape with bigger packages I’m a realest I know I’m not the best out there. Yet I just want to get a little more insight on how it is? I would really like to get a room and spend the night so just have some questions to anyone who has been. How is it? What are the rules? What REALLY happens there? Will single guys be on your lady and you like vultures? Is it a pushy environment ment? How’s the staff? How are the play rooms? You get the gist, I really just want to have some drinks watch the scene dance have fun with my wife and have a good time. So really just looking for any insight people can give me especially since I have to talk her into it and set our boundary’s. You know I’m not the fittest or have the biggest package but our relationship healthy and we have trust. So any advice would help thank you!
It really varies. All body types, all sizes. We been some days and the eye candy was amazing. We went once and a group was visiting that included 80-90 very large folks (not our thing) and we spent they day finding a safe place to look.
Most of the time it’s a mix and there is something for everyone. You won’t be attacked. Generally it works just like on a cruise. You are should to shoulder with lots of people, but no one directly engages unless you introduce yourself. Sometimes a couple or single might introduce themselves to you.
No one has ever touched one of us without consent. The single guys you speak of mainly just linger in the area where they think they might have a shot. They’ll wait for a cue, a smile, a wave, & then come over. It can be a bit creepy, but we’ve not had them linger because the Mrs is very good at giving off the no thanks vibe while being approachable. I’m not really sure what else they can do. It’s a tough balance to be assertive but also respect boundaries.
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