So my husband and i have been swinging for about 4 months. The first couple we met , we have now had full swaps about 6 things. Two of those times he's gotten half hard, at least hard enough to penetrate. One time he was fully hard and it was fucking fantastic. This was the one time his wife was in the room. After that in the same room for penetration experience, my husband felt uncomfortable and requested we have seperate rooms for penetration. They have respected that. However they're have been 2 or 3 times where he didn't get hard at all. I'm really nice about it and reassure him that it's fine. As i know acting upset would make this problem worse. I do ask why he's having issues. He says he's attracted to me but is in pain (had knee surgery, in pain now due to that, in pain before that due to the knee pain), stressed, tired, not sleeping well, etc. He says I'm not doing anything wrong and my technique is great. I'm just so fed up because my hubby does his job aka she's having multiple orgasms and moaning loudly. Meanwhile I'm just taking it fore play and his damn foreplay skills aren't even that great. I guess we keep saying because I'm chasing that one good tone and hoping for a repeat. Is this truly not about me?