My wife and I have dabbled in the LS. Mostly just a visit to a club that ended with soft swaps with two couples. In further discussion, it sounds like her true fantasy is a hall pass scenario.
This isn’t my preference at this point, as I would prefer continuing with couples or threesomes together. This way we see how each other responds to each experience and we learn together. I also like the compursion aspect of watching her experience pleasure live.
But I understand swinging isn’t her preference. I mentioned maybe we could support each others’ fantasies. We could continue with threesomes/foursomes when we’re together, but she could also try the occasional hall pass.
Is this common? Any downsides?
To have that hall pass or be a Hotwife, you and her need to have some serious ground rules. My guess is you don’t want it abused first and foremost, because she could easily go bouncing on random dudes dicks 7 days a week while you are at home watching TV
Though it’s frowned upon, make sure there is equality in this. I know everyone says “don’t keep score”, but if she is off fucking random dudes all the time and you aren’t having any fun except a pity soft swap occasionally, resentment will build real fast, which is not good for your marriage.
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