My wife has had 3 separate encounters with the same guy, who actually is a friend of ours. He’s been single for a little over a year and a half, He lives in a completely different state, so when we see him they sneak off and make out and do some ‘hand play’. The first time was pretty spontaneous after a drunk night at a party he made out with her in his car driving her home. I left early with our youngest child.

The other time was when she traveled with me for work and we were in his town and the last time was in our house.

She loves it, I love it, and he knows that I’m ok with it and even encouraging it. She told him that she won’t go any further unless I’m around.

He’s now in town visiting his family for three weeks. He’s coming over tomorrow night for drinks.

My question is how should we (wife and I) go about this? I’m sure she wants to play, she was ‘prepping’ last night with a fresh wax. We’re not sure if he’s completely ok with a potential 3 some situation. Do we start a conversation now ahead of time? Do we just see what happens? Any advice here is welcome.