Husband is objectively a 7-8 and I’ve gotten a 8-10 ( not bragging this is not about me). We’ve meet three couples and it went great but: His standards are extremely high, to the point that we once had 130 likes on Feeld and he only matched with FIVE. I’ve seen him turn down drop dead gorgeous women. He gets frustrated when I question him being so picky.

I’ve asked him several times in different occasions if he’s into swinging because we don’t have to do this and he keeps saying yes, it even annoys him how much I ask him and wants me to stop asking.

I need to point out that my husband is neurodivergent, he’s either on the spectrum or has severe adhd but his brain doesn’t work the same as a regular brain for sure ( yes it’s frustrating but he’s amazing outside of this) . When it comes to the lifestyle, the way it affects us is by him never being sure about people or judging them base on simplistic details such as how much make up they have in one picture. He also never texts back, it’s imposible for him to hold a conversation through text but wont shut up in person.

Lately I’ve realized there is a pattern of behavior in which he likes someone and randomly loses interest after days. We match with a couple, yea says yes, then right before the met up he says he’s not interested anymore and I have to cancel. It has happened three times in a few months and it’s extremely frustrating.

His reasons are:

-couple 1 canceled us the first time, too many schedule conflicts and lost interest.

-couple 2 the woman sent recent pictures in which he didn’t look as good as in the previous ones.

-couple 3 is the one we just had an argument about:

We went to a sex party and met them, got along really well, almost hooked up but only kissed. The women didn’t wanna have sex in front of people so they wants to meet tomorrow Friday. We said yes, exchanged instagrams, husband texted let’s coordinate to meet. I was happy, finally we found a match.

Tonight, my husband said he looked at her Instagram and she doesn’t seem that attractive anymore, doesn’t wanna have sex with them. I just canceled.

Idk if this is more of a rant but do you guys have any thoughts on this ? Anyone had similar experiences ? I kinda don’t trust his judgment anymore when he says yes to someone because I know he’ll find something he doesn’t like right before we meet.