I agree with this . Honestly your first and only thoughts for why someone doesn’t want to play with you is because you’re “too attractive “? And you seem to go to “the other woman must be insecure of me”.

There could be lots of reasons people aren’t interested in you . Yes insecurity happens to everyone at least once but if you get rejected or ghosted back to back like this it’s highly unlikely that’s why .

I would re read your convos again maybe something else was there you missed.

Also for us if you use filters or too many of them we pass (but that’s just us)

Please see the reply above that we posted to the other reply.

The Mr has got more of a runners/swimmers build vs body build, and definitely keeps himself in shape. His build is more along the lines of what the Mrs is attracted to anyway.

100% agree with you. There is the element of the guy being too over eager and I know from our experiences that we're less likely to do things if the Mr seems too into someone.

And there is so much talk about body positivity. But if you actually are secure in yourself and confident (regardless of how you look), it seems other women have to tear you down if they are insecure. The Mrs wears thong bikinis (took her years to feel secure about wearing them, he was always on board lol). Now we both encourage anyone, regardless of shape or size to do it if they feel comfortable. Be happy with yourself!

The idea of sending less than ideal photos has been brought up by a couple posters, so we may try this. One of the things that the Mr was super attracted to with regard to the Mrs when we first met was her confidence in herself. It was a major turn on for him.

Thank you for the positive response and for being a decent human being 😊

Thanks for the honesty and feedback, we very much appreciate it! And thanks for the encouragement as well! Your reply is well done and thank you for being a nice person 😊

That's good insight. It's all in the eye of the beholder

Thanks for the constructive criticism. You've got a good thought process, we will learn from it and be better. Thank you!

That's a good thought. On our LS profiles (Kasidie, SDC) we don't use fit as part of our screen names. We do say we are fit in our profile and we are generally attracted to other fit couples. Maybe that's the issue? We just would rather put it out there to not mislead people for what we are looking for.

It still doesn't explain the IRL situations

Thank you for providing an actual reply, unlike those who are just attacking us for the post. The not great picture idea is actually pretty good! We think it is probably the male half of the other couple's reaction to the Mrs's pictures and he may be too gung-ho? We generally don't seem to have the issue if the female is bi as they generally want the Mrs lol.

Thank you for the kind words! We appreciate the positivity and the encouragement to keep going! 😊

That is very true that many people use fit to mean slim. The Mrs does a lot of lifting with some added light cardio. The Mr does calisthenics, isometrics, cardio, with some occasional lifting.

The post was put up by the husband with the wife reading it over before he posted it. We've both found it frustrating as of late and he wanted to ask the reddit community of all places.

Thanks for the vote of confidence in our thought process. Based on the comments in here we probably have to continue to be introspective as well

Thank you for the respectful discussion and responses. We appreciate the thoughtful insight and the compliment on the Mrs's pictures.

We agree completely that it's worth letting the other couple know respectfully that you're not interested. It's just frustrating as it's been happening a lot lately (the complete ghosting or even blocking after pictures are exchanged)

That's true, there are a ton of people trolling. And we know that people have real life; we always are very understanding and let couples know that. It seems odd that on platforms such as SDC and Kasidie where people have to pay and get certified that they would be time wasters there. It would just be nice if people could say, "hey we changed our minds" or "while we appreciate the interest, we're just not feeling the attraction between all parties". That's what we try to do 🤷

Thanks for the support! We just need to keep our heads and positivity up!

We appreciate it! Thanks for being constructive and helpful!

Thanks for the honest reply. We generally don't post in here, but occasionally read posts. Just thought we'd try to ask the LS public. But we can definitely see it's a hive mindset, which seems to be basically the same as Vanilla life. We got into the LS as we wanted to be ourselves. And we are fully respectful of those who are in it as well; we don't think anyone should have to conform to one person's (or one hive's ) mindset. Everyone should be here to have a good time, not trash others they perceive to be something they may or may not actually be.

The club scenarios have been where the dynamics of the conversation immediately change upon the female of the other couple seeing the Mrs for the first time. I.e. the Mr is talking to her and her man when he's getting drinks. The Mr. grabs the Mrs and comes back. The female immediately goes cold (no words have even been exchanged by the Mrs and the other couple) and the other couple acts disinterested and walks away after basically saying hi or one or two words.

I guess maybe we need to adjust our notion of what we think. 🤷

No, that is not all we are. From the responses you've seen above, we are fairly intelligent. We can both carry a conversation, either via messages or IRL. We're both educated professionals, are successful in our professions, and both very type A people. We are fun and witty if you're around us and know us. But we do both take pride in our outward appearances as well. So I guess by doing so, that somehow makes us wrong?

So because we are fit there is something inherently wrong with us? The husband picked the username as it describes the fact that we both enjoy working out.

Additionally, the real life scenario at a club was provided as it is not just being an online thing. We were at a club (more than once) where a female will engage with the Mr and they will be chatting quite well. The Mr will not be right next to the Mrs and will go grab her from wherever she may be. As soon as the female half of the prospective couple sees the Mrs (no words will even have been exchanged beyond "this is my Mrs") the female half of the prospective couple will immediately go cold.

We generally don't use filters at all. If the Mr is sending pictures or posting them, there will be no filters lol.

None taken! And thank you for the compliment 😊 We both have been told we look unapproachable before IRL

Thanks for the reply. Very insightful. You just reinforced the stereotype that when a person or couple says that they are attractive, you perceive that couple to be full of themselves and try to shit on them to compensate for whatever you actually have going on. The question/scenario was worded to be genuine and give details, instead of misleading or giving a half story. It was not meant to say "were awesome and better than you"