So, we finally decided to venture into a club on "Single Guy" Night. And let me tell you, it was quite... a thing

A little backstory: my partner and I have been having a blast since we got together. We're not exactly hardcore "Swingers," but we're really into the sex-positive scene. Play parties, hotel hookups, and sex clubs, you name it.

The dynamics between these different environments are like night and day. Sex clubs tend to have assertive, direct men (which my partner likes) but they often lack that class, friendliness, and pleasant demeanor. On the other hand, the play parties we attend usually kick off with workshops, group exercises, and an emphasis on setting boundaries and respecting consent. However, the men there can be overly passive, leaning heavily toward caution. The balance between these vibes is a challenge. We love the sex-positive party atmosphere, but sometimes it feels like we're pulling teeth to get the men to show some initiative and approach. Meanwhile, at sex clubs, the guys come on strong, but the finesse is often lacking.

This past weekend, we decided to hit two different events:

Event A was an inclusive play party with live performances, great music, an inviting atmosphere, and more of a hippy vibe.

Event B was a Swinger club, specifically "Single Guy" Night. We'd never been to the club on that particular night before, and let's just say it was an eye-opener. Entry for single guys costs about $150.

Out of the 20 or so single guys there, only about 3 seemed decent; the rest were a mix of desperation, clinginess, and unquenchable thirst. While I've witnessed this behavior in smaller doses before, seeing it en masse was a whole different story. From low confidence to overly aggressive approaches, weak pick-up lines to those who wouldn't take no for an answer. It was all there.

We even had to raise our voices a couple of times to get a few guys to leave the couples-only area. I'm sharing this post to admit that I finally get it. Not that I haven't seen such behavior before, but witnessing it in such a blatant and frankly pathetic manner was an eye-opening experience.

Now, it wasn't all bad. Among the sea of not-so-impressive characters, we did manage to meet a guy who ticked all the boxes for my partner. She was so into him that she asked me to get his contact info to invite him to other events we frequent. That's one of the reasons we do this – to connect with fun new people and expand our network. It's all about building connections and having a good time.

And that's the scoop on our wild ride through Single Guy Nights at swinger clubs! Crazy how different vibes can be from one place to the next. Does anyone else have experiences to share?