One problem with forums and sub online is that as a rule people with problems are more likely to post. This can cause people just looking in to think bad issues are the norm. I think we are far less afflicted by that then some subs but it still happens.

So lets talk about the positives of swinging in your life. Honestly this would be a VERY VERY long post for me to write, there are quite a few, so I'll focus on a few.

Better communication with my wife: We never had bad communication, but swinging meant we could be very open about what we said and thought. While its required IMO for a long term lifestyle relationship, it opens up communication to other things as well.

Better health - We started swinging very late 20's. Thats the magical time for many American's where we start to get fat because we do less moving and more eating. I did, my wife did, and while swinging wasn't 100% the motivation to lose it, it definitely gave us some extra goals and endpoints. I didn't realize how bad the fat affected me until I lost it and SOOO much of my life improved, I'll never go back but that extra kick from wanting to look good naked in a group definitely helped start it.

Those are just a couple of things, I could write an essay on this, but please add your own.