Hi so I’m finding myself in a weird predicament here.so I (F22) will preface that I accidentally stumbled across this community, one day I was searching my town’s subreddit and the r4r sub popped up. I didn’t know what r4r stood for so I got curious and looked it up and was pleasantly surprised this existed.

So after a few weeks of lurking I made a post on my other account seeking a couple. I honestly didn’t think anything would come out of it but my messages flooded, mostly with single men of course but I got a few couples and really leaned to one of them. The only downside is they’re almost an hour away and can only host at their house due to their kids. After a few days of getting to know them and flirting I took the punch and drove to their home at 11pm. Risky I know but I was just too curious.

The night started off a little awkward as I mainly spoke to the wife, the husband was super quiet and just sat back. I thought it would be the other way around since I was solely texting the husband before and he didn’t seem shy at all. But after a few drinks we all loosen up and started playing. After we finished we said our goodbyes and I drove home.

If im being honest at the time Although I had fun I just thought it would be a one time thing. I didn’t know what unicorn or most of the swinger terms meant until finding this subreddit and ultimately I think that’s what they were looking for. We did play once more the next week and the husband mentioned doing it more often and I told them if I was up for it and every had the free time I would let them know.

The only thing Is after that the husband started texting me every week if I wanted to come over, even when his wife was on her period he said we can do solo play. Solo play made me a little uncomfortable because I like having both parties their to make sure everyone’s boundaries are being met and I just want to avoid jealously at all cost. Also the time that it takes to get to them is more driving than I’m willing to do on a regular basis.

I did ask if he had other options and recommended Feeld if my unavailability was getting in the way. And he took it as if I was telling him to move on which wasn’t really the case. I also mentioned having an interest in other couples who I found on Feeld since they were closer and he told me he could drive to me if I wanted. All of this back and forth is taking the fun out of being a unicorn and my attraction for him is a lot lower. Any advice on how to move forward?