So I’m posting as the male half of a married couple.

Age and looks: Both are 35. She is 5’4” 113lbs and very toned. C cup titties, a great ass, zero cellulite, and a tight everything. Loves it in every hole. I’m 6’ 195 lbs and in decent shape, (but do not have a 6 pack or anything.) Like a less chiseled Ryan Reynolds I’ve been told Lol. Dick is exactly 6”, girth is average and proportional to the length. I mention this part because I consider us a catch. We are not overweight or ugly or anything like that.

The goal: We have been really liking the idea of adding a bit more to our sex life. We are insanely content but feel like we should experiment and allow some fantasies come to fruition before we get older. But neither of us want to fuck another person. Basically it’s spitroasting fantasies and exhibitionism/voyeurism that we are looking for. …..my wife wants to be face fucked while I fuck her ass or pussy. I want to have the other woman sit on my face while my wife rides me. She can suck her husband’s dick at the same time for all I care. I’m also fine if the other woman wants suck me off while her husband fucks her.

My wife has made out with women and enjoys playing with boobs, but has no interest in eating pussy. She is fine with another woman eating her pussy while I’m in her mouth.

So we’ve basically been asked to join another couple, who is into everything I just wrote, but I know the other woman wants me to fuck her. She wants us to DP her while she eats out my wife. She also wants a full bi experience with my wife. We are not comfortable with that stuff at this point. She’s attractive btw, so it’s nothing to do with that. We’ve explained this and they said it’s totally fine. But she’s talked about what she really wants often so I’m sure she’ll push once we are in the moment.

My questions are: • should we get involved with this couple and just firmly reaffirm it’s soft only, or avoid them because I know she will want more? • more importantly, is our soft-only position a turnoff to others because the goal for most people is getting to have sex with another person, and we aren’t doing that?

For context, we’ve never done anything involving a 3rd or couple. This would be our first experience.

TLDR: is our firm “soft swap only” position a turnoff to others because the goal for most people is getting to have sex with another person, and we aren’t doing that? Or are there tons of couples that want something similar?