I’ve been enjoying this lifestyle for some time now as a SM and let me tell you , if your aren’t getting much attention from couples it’s better to invest time in yourself .

• The way you look matters a lot . Irrespective what everyone tells you , being physically fit matter to most couples . I said most not all . Many have their preferences , I get that . But just being physically fit will help you massively when it comes to meeting couples .

• Grooming and Hygiene is extremely important. Be trimmed down there , floss , hydrated lips .

• Don’t assume cuckold and hotwife are the same thing .

• Let to eat her pussy like a pro. If you go down on a lady and perform oral sex really good . Trust me you’re already on the ‘When are visiting town next list ‘ .

• Don’t look down upon the man , he isn’t some loser who isn’t ‘manly’ enough to satisfy his wife . You’ll be shocked the number of good looking hung guys who are secure in themselves to enjoy this life . Don’t assume .

• If you do well with women in real life , you’ll do well with couples .

• If you aren’t getting much success on swinger websites and stuff . It’s much better to invest that time on working on yourself .

• If you’re playing with another couple, chances are you’ll be naked with another man around . It’s easier said than done . So be ready.

• Smell nice . Cologne , proper hygiene . Groomed facial and body hair will do wonders . Women love a man who smells yummy .

• For the love of God , stop being desperate. Don’t plead and ask them to make an exception even when they’ve mentioned no to single guys on their profile .

• Don’t constantly text them . They have a life as well . Kids , Work , some other responsibility you aren’t aware about .

• Use you words and intros smartly.

• Do get a bottle of wine if you end up visiting them .

• Be social and ask questions but avoid asking too many personal questions.

• There are tons of Single guys who text them you have to ask yourself what sets you apart .

• Learn to be a Passionate lover . Don’t jackhammer and fuck aggressively right away . Take your time .

• There are quite a few videos online on how to eat pussy, if you’re good at it . Good luck trying to get her hand of your head while you’re down there .

• Enjoy a bit of alcohol , just don’t go overboard. It’s spoils the mood and the evening .

• Be respectful in your introductory message . Let them know how old are you , what you’re looking for .

• Send a few pics , a few normal pics . Maybe a nice pic with your boner evident .

• Again, workout and be physically fit . This will open alot of doors for you . Weight training , Cardio , Pilates etc

• Have a recent STD test as well . You won’t play raw right away but it does show your seriousness and helps couples be at ease .

• Not totally against adult content online . But it’s best to avoid doing what you see there . Rather amateur videos and content creators are really good at portraying passionate sex .

• Trim and file your nails. Keep them clean .

• Try being yourself . Laugh , have a good time . Talk to the Husband / Bf , often your vibe with him will matter how your night pans out .

Again , there’s a lot more to add .