I should start by saying my partner and I have been together a very long time and are pretty experienced at this point. I'm in decent shape, I'm pretty well endowed, and I really don't struggle at all with confidence or self image. I think I'm pretty happy with who I am.

I say all of that to say, often times, going into group settings, it almost feels like my dick is turned off for the first like twenty minutes of the encounter. I have no idea what it is. It might be that I'm more conscious of it than normal, but for that first little bit, nothing I or anyone else does will get it hard. It doesn't even really feel good like normal. It just feels like I have some extra skin down there. But then, after a few minutes, suddenly it just turns on and I have a big ole boner again.

At this point, I'm pretty used to it and when I communicate to partners that it happens they're almost always receptive and cool about it. But it would be nice to have that already hard out the pants moment. Also, I'm not even 30 yet. I don't jerk off that much. I feel like my relationship to sex is pretty healthy. Just, my dick is like on a delay during any sexual encounter involving more than two people.

Anybody have a similar experience or insight?