So my(38m) husband and I (36f) have been talking about going to a swingers club for years but I kept putting it off because I was insecure about my weight and looks. Every promotional picture of the club or hedo has gorgeous women and I was just certain that I was going to be the worst looking person there.

Well about 5 months ago I had lost almost 100lbs and was feeling much better about myself other than the loose skin and I said “fuck it, let’s go to the club for my birthday!” I was still absolutely filled with fear, and my hands literally shook as I handed over my DL to check in, but I just kept reminding myself that I didn’t have to stay if I felt truly bad. And you know, I walked in that club and it was just normal people. And as the night went on those normal people had less and less clothes on and no one blinked an eye. I even felt so brave that we played in the public room where anyone could watch and I LOVED it. I came out with just a bra and skirt on and no one gasped in horror and I was even complimented on the show we had put on in the public room. The show where I was COMPLETELY naked.

I had never felt so sexy in my entire life, and the amount of confidence I have gained in the past 5 months has been unbelievable. Well about 2 weeks ago I had a tummy tuck and am hoping to go back to the club in about a month and I am suddenly filled with anxiety about the scar. I’ve always heard that chicks dig scars, so I’m hoping that includes plastic surgery scars 😅 my husband has spent the past 15 years telling me that I am beautiful, and for the first time I believe that it is the truth and not just his truth.

I know that there are always going to be people who are shitty about looks, but I have never felt so accepted before. So I guess my ramble boils down to don’t wait for perfection before you step out of your comfort zone because it will never be perfect and then you’ll miss out on something that could be amazing.