My bf and I are VERY new to swinging. We went to LS club a few nights ago and set boundaries at the beginning of the evening. However, while playing with another couple my bf started pinching me because he was uncomfortable that I was doing something we initially agreed upon was ok. I was annoyed that he was pinching me instead of whispering on my ear or something.
What is a better way for him to communicate or me to have asked him for “permission” before acting on it.
If my hubby pinched me, I’d slap his hand away then go back to what I was doing. That’s not communication. It’s just being annoying.
Next time he needs to say “Let’s switch for a bit.” Or “Give me that ass for a second.” Then he can whisper to you about the issue, but pinching you like a twelve year old playground bully is just weird.
And you already had permission. That’s what boundaries are: permission as to what you can or cannot do.
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