My boyfriend and I have been very active in the BDSM community and have been all around sex clubs and events. We've also had multiple subs in the past so we've been active in having both sexual and pretty intense emotional relationships with other women. We've always loved it and never had any problems.

We absolutely LOVE orgies and went to NiN last week. It was our first swinger event. We were shocked by how much we loved it. We love public sex and put on shows regularly at BDSM clubs and events but the raw organic lust and want we experienced at NiN was nothing like we'd ever seen before.

The orgy rooms were amazing and twice we ended up in a group of people where we were all feeding off each other's energy. We even had a couple persue us and who we're totally ok with my boyfriend not wanting the man touching me. We hadn't thought our boundaries out because we honestly thought we were just going to go for the fun and to people watch but they approached us multiple nights and had a long conversation about what they wanted and our boundaries.

We were still able to connect even without him touching me. He fucked his girlfriend while I played with her clit and gagged myself so I could spit that thick throat spit onto her pussy and his cock. And he'd use her hand to kind of touch me- like basically grabbing her arm and using it to guide her hand. My boyfriend throat fucked her while he fucked her so I guess basically spit roasting.

It was so much God damn fun and now we want to go running into every swinger event we can find. But we're a little worried that people will be put off by the men not being allowed to touch me. We're very respectful and are always upfront about our boundaries. We'd never waste anyone's time. We're also totally cool just putting on a show at orgies while everyone else goes bananas on each other.

I guess what I'm asking is- do our limitations make us unappealing to the swinging community? Do y'all think we're just better off sticking to the community we know?