I met a woman who is in the lifestyle. I’ve always been hyper sexual and I’ve had numerous partners. Basically, I’m comfortable being in an ENM relationship with her. Recently we started a discussion around our dynamic and how we will play with others. She has an established community of people she has played with. She has 2 couples and one single guy. It’s just casual sex and no hanging out. She also goes to hotel takeovers and sex parties. She has played with one couple early on in our relationship, which was fine. She hasn’t seen the single guy or gone to sex parties since we’ve been together.

I don’t want to hold her back, but I also am not totally comfortable with her playing alone with a single guy. Well not yet. I’m okay with her playing with the couple, but I’d also like to partake. It’s just that I don’t have the community that she does and I’m not sure I want to enter those dynamics. Maybe I should? We also have said we want to start dating other couples. Which is fine. We also have to figure out how to navigate sex parties as partners.

The other caveat to this is that she has commitments every other weekend and on Mondays and Tuesdays. I on the other hand don’t. I’ve been meeting women and I’ve been having casual sex with them. She knows about this but doesn’t want to know details. I’m willing to stop these interactions if we can play together and only when we are both available. She doesn’t know if she wants to give up single play with her couples. She also doesn’t have the time to find new partners and I’m looking to build a community. It’s not necessary but I could find people to bring in to our dynamic. We are dedicated to figure this out and we are excited to see how this evolves.

How would you approach this? Please let me know if I need to clarify anything.