A fun analogy

Like every successful LS journey it starts with lots of discussion laying down the boundaries, expectations, and validation of feelings, etc. My S/O and I are avid dancers and during our discussions around the LS we realized that there are similarities that can be made between Partner Dancing and Partner Swapping.

Cumpersion

In both scenarios, you practice cumpersion to the extent where you’re happy to see your partner enjoying themselves either dancing on the social dance floor with someone else or moaning while fucking another person. There’s no ill feelings of seeing them enjoy themselves to new things with new people – think new dance moves or new sex positions/moves that you two haven’t personally tried yet. That’s not to say you will never have a sting of jealousy throughout your journey but, instead, see it as a feeling of pride and/or happiness that your partner got to experience something new and also something for you to try out later together 😉.

Cuming and leaving together

Whether it’s a social dance hall or a lifestyle event, you’re entering and leaving together. Just because you’re swapping with other singles or couples doesn’t mean your partner is going to decide right then and there that they want to leave your relationship behind for this new person. If that’s the case, then you probably dodged a bullet 😅. On the flipside, your partner could have the best dance night of their life going from one amazing social dance to the next but that’s not going to change their outlook on dancing with you.

Consent

“Consent is sexy”. Just like in the bedroom, it’s always a good thing to ask before you touch for the first time (on average). Likewise, asking for a dance promotes the same etiquette and makes sure your partner feels comfortable.

Dopamine rush

Attending any big event whether related to dancing or swinging always leaves a lingering high where you just want things to continue even after it’s ended. I blame the dopamine dump for all this but that’s not a bad thing.

Adjusting and paying attention

Sometimes during a dance event, you might run into a dance partner who isn’t attentive or adjusting to you and leaves you with a sour taste in your mouth. But, just because you had one bad experience shouldn’t mean the following dances will also be bad. Same way in the LS, you might get a sex partner who isn’t adjusting or paying attention to you and goes out of their way to satisfy their needs first and not yours. Again, one bad experience shouldn’t determine future events (most of the time).

These are a few analogies that we thought were fun to come up with. We realized they really helped both of us understand the lifestyle and made things click for us. If you’re new to the LS and are also dancers, then maybe try out these analogies in a discussion as it may clear things up for you just like it did for us. Feel free to share any other analogies related to dancing and swapping!