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Having our first separate play soon. Need some advice
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We've been in the LS a couple of years now, but any full swaps we've had were always in the same room.

We met a couple and had a soft swap with them a couple of months ago. Now they want to get together for a full swap in separate rooms (same house). This will be our and their first time doing this.

We're both pretty vocal during sex, and judging from the soft swap we had with this couple, they are also. It's not a big house, so I'm sure we'll hear each other.

My wife and I have always talked a lot about our "playtime", what we liked, what could be better, etc., but she has suggested that after this play we not talk about it for at least a couple of weeks afterward. She thinks that letting our imagination and what we heard do the talking for us would just make it more exiting.

What do y'all do? Is your separate playtime open for discussion, or do you not talk about it?

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Why not talk about it. We always do?

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Yeah. Like that

My husband and I like to talk about our separate encounters. The individuals we play solo with aren’t part of the same couple so a little bit different.

We absolutely loved the solo dynamic. It was so nice to connect without having a full audience and distractions. We both really got to focus on the other person.

I don’t understand the waiting to talk about it. I love to share right afterwards and so does my husband. The reclamation sex was absolutely incredible!

Good luck! Hope you two have a fun time stepping into the next chapter of your LS journey!

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Honestly, I don't think either of us will make it more than a few days without talking about it. It's something we love to do.

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We have played that one out before. Pretend that I was someone else and the real me was sitting in a chair blindfolded

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We've been talking about it for a while. Just haven't had the nerve to try it. And I'm thinking that letting the imagination run wild would be fun torture.

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Update: So we had our playtime last night and my prediction was correct. It wasn't 10 minutes into the drive home (we live about 30 minutes away) before my wife asked how she was. When I said that I thought we weren't going to talk about it for a while, she said "you really didn't think that was going to happen, did you?"

Anyway, we talked about it all the way home. It was a good experience, everybody respected the other's boundaries.

We got to the house, took a shower, and had very romantic sex before falling asleep.

Bottom line is, we'll definitely do that again.

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That's what we usually do.

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I love being in the same room hearing my wife orgasm.

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Which one? Separate play, or not talking about it for a bit?

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Oh, we would defiantly talk about if something went wrong like that.

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Right. Instead of talking about it right after.

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