Lots of talk about appearances and attractiveness in general: Dad bods yay/nay. Hot wives with looks only and nothing to say. Botox injections, hours of gymtime and footlong erections (idk, I use the metric system). Be funny, but not too eager, show me what you want and please please please remember to be a pleaser. Don’t take one for the team but sometimes you need to settle and that’s ok to live this lifestyle dream. Oh and never fuck a 5 or an 11. Try to aim for an 8 (to make you look hotter), a 4 (they’re the best fucks!) or pull a Monica and go with a 7…7….7….7….7….

Whatever your preference, your looks or your personality, in the end there needs to be some sort of connection to make you want to have sex with someone.

And I don’t know about you guys but feeling desired and wanted in a genuine, authentic way that hits the right spots makes me want you right back (a lot of the times).

We all want to feel desired. Want to be wanted. Good enough. We want to matter. To be seen. Heard. Valued.

How can someone make you feel this way when you meet them?

NB. It doesn’t have to be “soul deep” at all. Eye contact, asking questions AND listening to my answers or complimenting me with something small goes a long way when talking to me.