Recently we started playing separately (25M and 24F). As expected, she has an easier time finding single men, which is not a problem at all. A major boundary for us is protection, for a number of reasons including safety but also that only we share raw sex because it is intimate. One day she came back to tell me she messed up and ended up having sex without a condom with a guy and it was the heat of the moment. She apologized and I understand and forgive her but I still feel hurt and sad because of the symbolic impact of being violated. It took us a while to reach this far into our open journey mainly because she didn’t want to and I was always the person pushing for it and as soon as she wanted it, it seems like it was so easy for her to make this mistake. Am I overthinking it? How else can I positively channel my feelings.