My partner (41F) and I (34F) have been in the LS for about a year so far. We are having lots of fun and its definitely enhanced our love life. Everyone we meet calls us the "unicorns" of the LS. We are very choosy about single men play with. The times we have played with single men, we have experienced a lot of jackrabbiting and jackhammering. We communicate our needs but still have little foreplay and lots of jackrabbiting. We rarely get the chance to cum and when we do, we have to take a break from the guy to focus on each other's orgasm. we both love penetration and consider ourselves queer. but again the jackrabbiting (CRINGE)

Is this a norm when dealing with single men? Is every guy in the LS a bull? is there such a thing as a man that can turn their dominance on/off because when we ask for more "submissive" behavior - men are confused as to what we mean? We want to be worshipped and listened to (such as if we tell you to watch, we aren't going to turn around and then have your face in our asses)

Helpful tips are welcomed - when choosing a single guy!