My partner and I have been somewhat involved in the LS for a about 6 months now. The extent of basically just going to a nearby theater where we can publicly play/ have sex or fuck next to another couple. Unfortunately I’ve found that my past life of being very “promiscuous” has set me up for failure. So many LS kinks, situations & interests do nothing for me. Having sex next to another couple doesn’t turn me on nor turn me off, its just a thing that’s happening. We’ve tried finding a 3rd here and there (we’re both bi) but he is understandably v picky with men and I am picky-ish with both men and women. My thing is that I’ve been with a lot of men while I was single and I don’t NEED to have sex with another guy especially if he’s not as good looking or in as good of shape as my partner. However if he was more submissive and just into different things that my partner wouldn’t be that would change things. I’m mainly attracted to WOC and have found this to be difficult. It’s been hard for me to come to terms with the fact that if I were single I feel as though I could simply find what I want, but because I’m already picky and my partner is picky ontop of it we’ve run into issues. We’d like to go to a club however there aren’t any local to us so we’ve decided on one about 2 hours away that we can try as guests. I’m pretty concerned that I’ll get there and too many situation/ people that I’m not interested in will turn me off, or I just will feel “whatever” about it and not really care? Ultimately my preferred situation would be for us to find a couple we are both interested in and to remain longer sort of FWB with, I know this usually only comes with multiple years of already being in the community though.. am I just extremely overthinking every what of, is this a niche concern, or all these are pretty normal LSnewbie issues?