We have been married 19 years . Great relationship and want to check out the local swingers seen and have been talking to local couples . Well last week at work she gave a guy a hug and the man proceeded to touch her butt and breast , grabbing both and she has been emotionally broken from it blaming herself for what has happened because she feels she was to nice to this person and her being nice influenced his actions …

Well we want to start getting in bed with other couples but its been almost two weeks now and she is still emotionally broken from all this … i want to take her out and let her experience the lifestyle and enjoy it but im afraid shes going to have a rush of emotions and or so to say PTSD from the experience at work and it will either so to say scare her more and or put us in an akward spot with another couple.

Wondering how you would approach this ? I am all for protection and waiting longer for her to become comfortable with herself and what she wants to do , i also suggested a safe word so to say where ill know when to ask the other party to stop or let them know its just not the right time , or , we just go and put on our own show and collect names for future references .

Any suggestions? Really dont want to kill an open relationship before it had a chance to begin

( my nature is in protection and making sure she’s comfortable and safe , not jealousy at all just , dont want her doing more damage right now to her mental state if she jumps into to quick )