21M (me) and 24F (my fiancee), currently just a fantasy for us but we are considering looking into it in the future (few years at least). She is way more open than I am, even though it was my idea lol, she is a very "go with the flow" type of person, I am a ball of anxiety that likes to plan things out. We are not at all needing to join the lifestyle, but we both want to cross it off our bucket list one day, so ive already begun writing down potential rules and boundaries, as well as discussing my insecure feelings with my fiancee and finding the root of what makes me jealous.
I've got a ways to go. I'm mostly only nervous of the concept of MFM/MMF, I'm not bi but somewhat bi-curious, I'm willing to experiment, but I just have very insecure feelings over the thought of another man with my fiancee. I'd love to work through these feelings as far in advance as possible, so if anybody has advice, I'd love to hear it!
Currently, my first baby step is just getting used to her and I finding other people attractive. It's something I know we both do, so we are making an effort to express those desires more, just to get comfortable with the thought.
So what would be your ideal first encounter with another person(s)?
Maybe just focus on couples in the beginning.
As far as your âfear of improvisingâ, as long as you and her are on the same page that shouldnât be an issue
The very first thing is to think about how each of you would feel seeing the other fucking someone else and hearing them moan in a way they havenât with you.
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So do some FMF, but when you do MMF, just meet with the guy a few times for drinks to get comfortable around him.