This weekend my husband and I had our first venture into playing separately. Only played in the same room until now. We have been in the lifestyle for about 3 years.

While we really love the group dynamic it can get a bit overwhelming at times for myself and my husband. I often have to take breaks because there’s just so much happening. At times he loses focus and starts to get soft. Being in separate rooms really allowed both of us to connect with the other partner more intimately with less distractions. I didn’t have take nearly as many breaks and my husband had no issues keeping an erection.

After this weekend we are seeing we may prefer playing separately. Minus a couple points. I really missed watching my husband in action as well as being able to connect with him throughout play.

What are your experiences with separate play? And there any things we should take into consideration moving forward?

Thank you in advance for your input!

Edit: didn’t realize this post would get so many responses! Thank you so much for all the input! I may not be able to respond to each comment individually but we are seeing a common theme that matches what we experienced. We will continue to tread lightly and only play separately with people we feel very comfortable with. Since this is so new to us we may place same room on the back burner for a bit and return if the mood strikes.