My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for almost 2 years, and we don't boast about it openly, but we also don't hide it from friends or people who ask. I have a coworker friend who knows that we swing. She also knows I/we don't mess around with people I work with. There was a fully established scenario to my coworker that she and her husband are strictly friends because the lifestyle is not their scene, and that is not an issue for my wife and me. We have plenty of friends who are not in the lifestyle, and we all get along great and just hang out. On multiple occasions, it's been brought up that my wife and I would love to go get some dinner or just hang out with her and her husband because we all get along great (same personality and humor).

This past weekend, a whole bunch of us coworkers went out for drinks. On the ride over in the party bus, her and I sat together (our spouses stayed home. It's not their scene). My coworker let me know that she really adored my wife and I, but she talked it over with her husband and as much as they would love to hangout with us, they are worried about what others will say or think if they know they are hangout with swingers.

I told her I understood and didn't let it ruin the night. I told my wife the next day, and she was really hurt because she genuinely liked them, we both did. Now, it's awkward for me, because we are back at work and my coworker wants to act like everything is perfectly okay, but I don't want to be friends with someone who can't accept what we do in our personal life.

Has anyone else been through this because, man, it sucks? I've never had this happen before, ever.