I understand where you’re coming from. I love when women make it clear they are interested in me. But, the right women. I also agree with the comments saying it’s unreasonable to expect a lot of aggressive women in the lifestyle.

Even within committed relationships women tend to lean toward “responsive desire”. Meaning that they respond to their partners advances, and don’t initiate as often themselves. It’s the source of a LOT of relationship issues, but it also just IS.

Now, add to that the unknown factor. It’s unlikely you’ll get a lot of what you (and I) want. Even if you get it, are you attracted to her?

My only advice is to be more obvious in your compliments of women you are interested in. I had to learn this myself. You might think that by paying attention to her, staying near her, buying her a drink, etc. that you are expressing interest. In reality, it’s better just to say, “wow! I think you’re super hot!” And see how she reacts. If you get a green light, great. Keep up the good work. If she backs off, she’s not for you.

Ladies this applies to you too! Us guys need some feedback from you. Yes, you’re hot. We love your tits in that dress. But we also need you to show us that you are interested in US. For a lot of guys, that buildup is what allows us to perform come gametime.