My boyfriend (M43) and I (F57) had a couple's experience last week and again with the same couple over the weekend. We chatted four-way for a week before meeting in person, and the conversations were steamy and exciting.

Fast forward to our first meeting. The male didn't do much in the way of foreplay before attempting to penetrate me. There was some kissing and he touched my breasts a little bit, but it wasn't enough to lube me up. Then his wife went down on me and my juices really started flowing. All was well when fucking recommenced.

For our second meeting they came to our home. We engaged in some chit chat, took them on a brief tour, then went downstairs to our massage table where we had talked about "all hands on" sensual massages to get things going. Hot, right? My partner began giving the wife a sexy massage and I was standing there waiting for him to hand me the oil to help when the husband led me away, pushed me down onto our love sac, and stuck his dick in me. ZERO foreplay! It was uncomfortable but I didn't want to be a buzzkill for my partner so I didn't say anything. It's not like this guy couldn't tell that I wasn't ready because it took some good effort on his part to get inside me.

My questions are: 1) How could I have stopped him without ruining the experience for everybody else? Saying "ow" would have been alarming for my bf and "Dude, I'm not wet yet" may have deflated his ego. Obviously I need to be more bold in communicating my needs but I wasn't sure what to say without killing the vibe in the room. 2) Is my expectation for decent foreplay too high? Foreplay is "normal" in the relationship with my BF so going from small talk to fucking didn't give me anytime to prepare mentally.

My bf won't tolerate disrespect or me feeling uncomfortable, but he didn't know. It's my own fault for not communicating openly when it started but again, I didn't want to ruin the experience for everyone else. Any tips or advice for the future would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.

Edit: My second question is obviously facetious