My husband has been swinging for over 20 years. I tried it once with my ex but it was a disaster. We hadn't talked about boundaries, what is too intimate, etc. My husband and I talked and still talk about expectations, etc, and have had a good time. We only play as a couple. Today I re-activated our SLS account, with my husband's full knowledge. In our profile, I specified that I love rough, Primal sex. A bunch of single guys replied and I got carried away and chatted with one. When I told my husband about him, he reminded me that we had agreed to only play as a couple, and that if I changed my mind about that, I should have talked to him about it first. I completely agree and feel horrible, especially because I know how upset I would be if the situation were reversed. Husband said he was annoyed, but not angry or hurt, but I still feel bad. To be clear: I haven't played with the single male; just chatted so far, but I would like to play with him in a 3-some with my husband and have him join us and our friend (f) for a foursome.

Has anyone else experienced a communication breakdown/fuck up? How did you handle it? I feel terrible for violating our boundaries.