I (30F) am going to a swingers club this Friday. I have been before in other countries, but always went with male partners or friends and this time will be my first alone. I used to play with men and women alike, but having currently a partner overseas, I made a promise to him that I won't have sex with guys (this came from me btw, we're fully open usually when we are in the same country, but being apart now for 6 months made me want to show him that I can "wait" for him for that long).

That said, I am happy to play with girls at the club. I am also happy to receive oral from both, but would only give oral to women.

Reading through the advice here, it seems like solo women can run the show, however I am worried that I may ask for too much. Is it reasonable to go to a swingers party with these boundaries? Or should I not go if these are my rules?

Thank you for your opinions!