For context we are beginners. We’ve just now talked through a mfm scenario and I, the husband think it sounds really fun! After some discussion the wife has seriously entertained the idea of bringing in a third. She has no interest in females or really me being with another woman which I respect. However this kind of throws out male half’s of couples.

For the record, I have no interest in cuckholding. Being humiliated or disrespected doesn’t do anything for me. I don’t have a small dick, we’re not looking for a bull, etc. I just enjoy watching my wife pleasure herself with toys and having a real “toy” there to help pleasure along with myself is enticing.

So this brings me to my point. How do you find respectful solo men to bring into the bedroom? There seems to be some expectation I’m a cuck with everyone we’ve been approached by so far. Ultimately her pleasure is the goal, but I’d like my pleasure to be considered as well. This was my idea after all haha. Any tips on finding, screening, and ultimately playing with solo males?