Not a recovery program, but someplace where you can talk openly about swinger- specific issues?

My fiancée (F51) and I (M48) are not ' out' to our vanilla friends. I have ZERO swinger friends. If I need perspective, where can I go?

Forums like this are okay for surface talks about etiquette, and guidance, and "Hey, this thing happened, that was weird, right?" conversations. But no one's going to read three novellas' worth of bavkstory about some random guy in another country they've never met and understand him enough to help him with his issues.

Is there a place where people can go (Toronto/Oakville, Canada) where you can get some help?

ETA: Yes, I've tried therapy. It's entirely out of pocket in Ontario and I've yet to meet a therapist I 'gel' with. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist on Monday to discuss unrelated mental health issues.