What to do after a boundary has been crossed? Me, F40, and husband, M40, have been having some meetups with one female. He and I have set clear boundaries and have shared them with her. Last time we got together (a week ago), he crossed a boundary. During the experience, he asked āis it ok?ā but he was interacting with her at the time so I didnāt pay attention to what he was asking or who he was addressing. I was on the bed next to them. A second later, he proceeded to cross the boundary we had put in place at the beginning of this relationship. Iām not sure how to proceed. Please share any advice you can offer.
If you canāt talk about it you shouldnāt be doing this. You both should have debriefed as soon as the play was done and maybe the next morning especially if you are new.
Also, why did you start this journey? You donāt have to answer that here (itās just rhetorical) but based on your other posts you might be trying to fix something . Swinging should enhance what is already great. Itās not a bandaid. I know Iām blunt above but jumping into this for the wrong reasons not only hurts you as a person , it hurts your relationship and youāre affecting the people you bring into your bedroom.
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And I gave it to her. Stop swinging.