My wife and I have had a lovely time with a male friend in MFM threesomes. I am bi and have offered that I would be up for a full MMF interaction, but, until recently, he has declined. He has recently been expressing a more interested attitude, but is, understandably, nervous and would like me to take the lead. I enthusiastically agreed… except I have never actually had sex with a man as I came out 6 years after marrying my wife.

Anyone with suggestions of how to go about building a general plan with lots of enthusiastic consent check-ins, gradual build up, and room for my wife to fully participate? I don’t even know where to start and I want to provide a reasonably good experience to encourage further exploration, though, it will obviously not be reasonable to expect perfect magic; I just want to provide a reliably adequate sample. He has also not provided anything “off the table” which makes this more challenging.