A month ago, we met a couple on an app and really hit it off. They are still new and we were their first experience, while we have been doing this for 4 years. We all met up that weekend, and the weekend after. Everyone had an amazing time and our group chat has been nonstop. Her and I have been bonding over vanilla life and mutual interests. Including us listening to an audiobook together and planning on future vanilla dates.

Fast forward to this weekend. Her and I went on a vanilla date. She was quick to praise how excited she was by everything. Expressing more interest in continuing a friendship with me and sexual dynamic between us, and our husbands. i’ve never gotten along with someone so well in the lifestyle, and I was really excited at the idea of us becoming friends. Unfortunately she also said a few things that raised flags for me. Based off of our previous conversations and things that we're said, she was now saying things that were not adding up. She even made a reference to her and her husband wanting to wife poach and push boundaries with another couple they had less desire in. I told her that isn't by us okay, and you don't push pre-discussed boundaries. She was on her phone throughout the date, and I could see her messaging other couples and woman on the dating app we met on. I thought it was rude as we were actively on a date.

I was willing to move past it and talk about it later. But today I got a message from her, saying they will be MIA due to a family matter. Part of me doesn’t think this is true, I think she realized I wasn't going to let her and her husband “push our boundaries”

I was excited to have finally met a fun, flirty female friend in the lifestyle. Nope, just another couple pulling the bait and switch trying to secure the ultimate threesome and unicorn experience with another mans wife.

Any advice, comments or perspective would be nice. Thanks in advance everyone