OP:

Hello everyone, my wife and I are looking to have our first experience in swinging. Yet we don't know how best to start. Should we go to a club, join a swinging website, soft swap, hard swap, threesome. We're looking to ease into this to really learn what we're comfortable with. We've talked about it at length, but we haven't talked to any actual swingers. Any advice???

UPDATE:

We went to the Club! (Long update)

So, to sum it up, we had a great experience. We are excited to return and start exploring opportunities with other couples. Thank you all for the advice. Below is how our night went down.

We gathered all our courage and ventured out to the club. I was expecting a sausage fest of single guys and thought I would be fending off guys trying to bone my very attractive wife. We came only to watch and talk with no intention of playing on our first time out. We don't speak the local language, so we stood out a bit, but everyone was very friendly. Now the language barrier led to the part of my night I'm still processing.

We were by the bar when we were approach by a group of couples that seem to be very tight night regulars. They were all very nice. One of the ladies of the group spoke some of our language and we were able to communicate a little. This is where it gets interesting. I (M) was not expecting to be the center of attention, but all four ladies of the group seemed to be very interested in me. Which was awesome but something was said that got the ladies excited and in about three seconds I found myself moved to stand in front of one of the seated ladies who was preparing to whip out my dick to suck while another is kissing my neck standing behind me attempting to assist me undo my pants. I was so confused, and a bit overwhelmed, and we hastily tried to explain that we are not playing. We manage to backtrack our conversation and I realized that I miscommunicated that we are considering playing in a way that stated I'm down to play right now.

They were so apologetic. I felt so bad. They calmed us down and reassured us that no one would do anything until we're ready. But the mistake was mine I thought we just fucked up our whole night. But we were wrong, we continued to have great interactions with them and several other couples, and we exchanged numbers with one.

My wife and I went to our hotel and fucked like rabbits. We also did it twice the next day because we can't stop thinking about our experience at the club and all our future possibilities.

We are also feeling very tired. Almost like a whole-body weakness. Don't know if we're coming down from an emotional high but we don't want to do anything but lay in bed. Is this normal?

Anyway, already making plans to go again and actually participate in some of the activities we witnessed.