We look for the same arrangement! We only want to fuck people we can be friends with outside of the bedroom. It keeps our circle small but we prefer it this way. It does make the search incredibly difficult for new couples. A lot of swingers don’t want friendships, and that’s fine. We tell potential partners from the start that friendship with sex is what we are looking for.

We haven’t looked for new partners since January partly because of how time consuming it is. I don’t think we have run out of local couples, I think we just are sick of the search in general. My husband and I just don’t have to time. I’m sure we will get the itch to find new partners again but right now we are very content with the play partners we have. We have found having repeated sex with people you trust and are friends with, is so much more satisfying than a one night stand. To each their own though, there’s something for everyone!