My wife and I are new to this. We had our 1st experience with a couple last month, it went awesome, so we decided to try a club for the 1st time last night.

We hyped it up all week. It was never a guarantee that we were going to play with anyone, but my wife talked all week like it was most probably going to happen. She talked about sucking off multiple men, me and her eating pussy, shit she even reminded me to go buy condoms. I mean we were so revved up by the time we got there last night.

We are there for a bit and my wife just looks shellshocked. Like she wasnt expecting this. Even tho its all we talked about. We almost left about an hour in, bc she wasnt feeling any of it, but then decided to give it another try.

Ok cool, we walk around some more, but she was adamant about not talking to anyone else. Ok fine, we dont have to thats ok, but again after the hype all week i was off put a but. But ok lets watch others and have fun, i really didnt mind.

We go upstairs to a room with 6 beds in a row, and there were 2 couples doing their thing on the last 2 beds to the right, with another couple watching. My wife finally says to me ok lets give it a try, so we go to the first bed away from everyone and have a little sex for a minute or 2. I wasnt expecting us to do anything when we went upstairs, and i had been drinking a bit (not drunk or anything) so i didnt think to pee before going up. So i told my wife that this is hot but i gotta pee so bad, shes ok no problem lets go pee. We do that, and she turns back into that shellshocked deer in the headlights woman and doesnt want to go upstairs again. Just wants to go home. So home we went.

We get home and she starts talking like wow we had sex in front of others it was amazing and the fact that she came with other people in the room was a first for her too. Im just sitting there like well i didnt cum (didnt get a chance to cum our first experience either) and we literally fooled around for 2 minutes having doggy style sex with our clothes on (she refused to get naked)

I just dont get it. Now today im not necessarily mad but i am disappointed and annoyed. We are busy people, we dont get too much opportunity to do this stuff, and i feel like last night was a waste. Its just the fact she acted totally different then how she spoke all week about it, i guess thats whats annoying me here.

I dont know if im looking for advice here or not, it just felt kind of good to write this out (and plus i dont have a person in the world besides my wife i can talk to about this stuff) so i appreciate anyone reading this. Am i being an asshole, should i feel like this or am i just being a baby? I feel confused and totally not turned on at all (she did try to fuck me this morning, but i just said i had a headache bc i really really wasnt feeling her)