Hey wondering if anyone could give me some advice. M33 and F28. We’ve currently been to two swingers clubs, first time we did nothing, even between ourselves, we forgot about the private rooms and whenever we wanted to get frisky around 7 guys swarmed around us so it made me very self conscious (single guys night first time). 2nd time we did kiss and touch another couple, watch another couple fuck in a private room and touch them while they were fucking, and had sex in a private room between ourselves.

I’m quite a shy person in terms of sex and it takes me a while to relax enough to get an erection, I feel very self conscious about that in a group setting, one on one it’s cool because I can take my time and focus on that person and get into it. I’m so shy sometimes I even get shy when peeing, and needed to bring her with me to the bathroom otherwise I was too nervous to relax to pee in the clubs.

So when we were with the other couples, I wasn’t feeling horny or getting an erection. I enjoyed the interactions Not a big deal and everything was fine because we set the boundary of ‘just been us’ however my partner is quite happy to move forward and I need to push the brakes a few times, which I think disappointed one of the couples.

I would have liked to maybe feel more sexually charged in those moments. Instead I felt very self conscious and maybe a bit concerned about my partner and what she was touching/doing with the guy or what he was doing with her, rather than enjoying the moment. Maybe the couples weren’t right for me? I don’t know if it’s me or. They were hot couples.

I’ve only been with three girls in my life so I’m thinking maybe I need more time and experience. My partner has had a lot more sexual experiences so is more ready than I am I think.

I feel that maybe having one other person would be easier for me, rather than a couple and full swap to start with. Either her with another guy while I watch, or me with another girl and they kind of help me. I don’t think I could play at the same level as another experienced couple swapping because I would have too many things in my mind. It can be painful to be the person stopping the fun because of my own limitations.

Maybe I need to take a cialis pill? I feel like it will take a while for me to relax into the lifestyle enough to play like what I’m seeing other guys are doing!

Has anyone else gone through this and come out the other side? Any tips or advice greatly appreciated!