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Preface: So my wife and I have been in the lifestyle for a few years. We enjoy full swaps, but tend to actually gravitate to threesomes more as itâs been easier to connect (& schedule) with thirds vs the ever-elusive 4/6 way chemistry weâre chasing all after with full swap swinging.
Yesterday, we were approached by a solo M for a MFM r4r weâd put out. The guy Seemed nice, vibed with my wife. Married, but a not a dealbreaker with us for thirds if everyone has permission.. all good stuff right? So my bride takes it to the chat apps.. AND THEN, he happens to sprinkle in that his wife is a cuckquean and that my wife should chat with her as well to âestablish chemistryâ.
*NOTE - this is not a post to kink shame. If it works for them, thatâs awesome!
Chat continues, and their dynamic becomes more and more evident. Surprise! Sheâs also bisexual and Theyâre looking for a cuckcake.
My issue here is this was a bait & switch, and a pretty obvious intention to wife poach from a couple that represented themselves as âexperiencedâ swingers.
Itâs the first time Iâve ever used my âvetoâ rights, and created unnecessary friction in our otherwise awesome pineapple life.
Has anyone else ran into cuckqueaning in the lifestyle like this? Curious how often it happens as it seems like basically a back door unicorn hunt.
Only friction because they forced me to be the âbad guyâ husband. Iâm traditionally not the jealous type.
My wife shut it down. Weâre in lockstep. It just took her by surprise a bit how hard I cracked down on it.
A cuckcake is essentially the female equivalent of a âbullâ in traditional cuckolding. Itâs the individual brought into a dynamic who has sex with the spouse, and establishes dominance over the primary partner. Essentially a unicorn who dominates the wife as well.
A great question. Cuckâing in general isnât our dynamic AT ALL, so I havenât taken too deep a dive beyond the first layers.
Agreed to an extent that I opened the flood gates of horny single guys in our (mutual!) inbox. HOWEVER, this was a MFM request post specifically. Not a âM - FMFâ
Youâre really hung up on this âowningâ thing. Assuming you read my post, in this scenario we were searching for another SOLO male for a MFM threesome. So please donât talk to me about insecurity. This couple misrepresented their intent and tried to turn it into a FMF scenario with my wife. She and I swing together, a MUTUALLY agreed upon decision. If you understood anything about swinging youâd realize every coupleâs relationship dynamic is a CRUCIAL component. Take care.
If youâre communicating about these type of things, youâre doing great! Best of luck!
Best wishes to you kind stranger. Different strokes for different folks.
As a woman who likes to watch her husband fuckâŚI would never exclude the other husband. To be honest, I got into watching because a lot of the husbands couldnât get it up or were super tiny. It made us move to finding single women/single men (basically making our own couples lol) because how often we ran into hot women and their ugly/non-performing husbands. Their dynamic, however, seems really odd and definitely not truthful.
Iâll give you some slack seeing as youâre pretty clueless, and pretending to know our relationship. My wife is the one who put the rule into effect that â4 play, or no playâ when we started swinging after being left out when a husband couldnât get it up⌠so move onto another post to troll. Cheers.
To be fair, she didnât see the con until I walked her through it. Weâre on the same team and she shut it down pronto when realizing.
This is an interesting argument. Appreciate the perspective. The male half reopened the chat, and sent my wife thirst today after she politely declined and Bowed out of the conversation. They obviously would not have taken no for an answer.
As a natural extrovert whoâs gotten into this lifestyle to make friends in addition to great sex, stories like this just make me so upset that it got to that point. Sorry you had to deal with that.. NOT how itâs supposed to be.
I absolutely love watching AND participating in my wife getting pleased. This was a blatant attempt to circumvent the latter. Thanks for your input.
âLet US get her laidâ seems a bit collaborative does it not? We posted from a throwaway dummy.
Does your wife participate with the female in your MFMs? Thatâs where it turned into the poach.
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Itâs a legit nefarious practice in the lifestyle called wife poaching. We played with a couple that had this happen. The conspirators essentially waited for her hubs to step away and made a move on her in a bathroom at a party. Super shady.