We’ve been in the LS for 6 years but only full swap for the last year. While PIV has been great for me it’s consistently challenging for Mrs as about 75% of the men she’s been with don’t stay hard. She’s beautiful but it’s messing with her self esteem.
Is she having an unlucky streak or is this just what we should expect among the 40 crowd?
Are there any polite ways of asking about ED so we can emphasize soft swap with guys who don’t stay hard? We recently played with a couple that was upfront about it and fun was had by all.
I haven’t read all the comments, but this happens ALL the time. A lot of it is mental. And I like older guys, but it’s definitely more common with them. I also feel like it’s more common with couples. That’s why we’ve moved to just playing with single men and single women (and younger). My husband always pops a viagra on play nights, and then he has zero problems and can go multiple times (he’s 40 ). It’s just sucks so bad for the woman to have to deal with limp dick, and really hurts our self esteem. Until I learned it’s not really about that. More about the guy freaking out OR has ED issues that he didn’t disclose
The ladies we’ve been with have been great about using their words and asking for more lube when needed.
The vast majority of our play is as a 4some in a hotel room.
Most of them. It's no wonder their wives want to swap.
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This is a good point. We’re almost always playing as a group.