I joined this couple for the first time. I was nervous about the whole thing but I went in with advice you all gave me a few weeks ago. (Which was great advice and I acted upon it all). I felt confident when the day came, but it was a poor experience. I talked to both before hand about what they wanted and felt comfortable with. Then they did the complete opposite and was distant and silent the entire time. There was a complete lack of emotion from wife. I sensed this during foreplay and asked for feedback on what she wanted or if that felt good, you know the usual questions. Like no response and she just laid there. It was like this the entire time and I couldn't wait to get out of there. I didn't think it would be this bad of an experience, the way the couple responded to the messages, it was going to be a blast. I'm hesitant joining another couple because of this