I am M(48) and my wife is F(40). We are fairly new to swinging but we have had several great experiences. Here is what I’m dealing with. During play everything is great, but after play I feel so insecure. My wife has had some amazing encounters and things have happened for her that don’t typically happen between us. One encounter had her cumming over 30 times including an orgasm with just nipple play. Not to mention it seems that every one of her encounters has resulted in her squirting, which is a rarity in our sex life though it does happen. Don’t get me wrong I think our sex life is great and she typically cums 5-8 times, but when I hear what other men have done for her I feel absolutely inadequate. I’m both incredibly happy for her and ashamed of myself at the same time. I’m not at all worried about losing her to another man, but I am terrified of her not feeling satisfied with me sexually. Intellectually I know this isn’t true, but emotionally it’s hard not to worry about. How do other people in the lifestyle learn to deal with these sorts of insecurities

Edit: weirdly I haven’t had the same level of insecurity when we had MFM’s maybe because I wasn’t also worried about my performance with another woman. Not sure.