To add an intro, I was once a fan of casual sex until I had a horrible experience that made me realize I did not have the assertiveness to engage in casual sex and keep myself safe. I'm in a much healthier mental state now and also accept that any sexual situation with my partner beside me is bot casual.

And again, I would just rather refer to myself as a zebra than a funny looking horse with stripes in an alternating color pattern. Communication works that way.

For the swingers, what does being a swinger mean to you? Apparently that is the most appropriate label for our relationship. Seeking shared sexual experiences. I can easily be in a monogamous relationship, but refuse to restrict my partner to monogamy. She was seeking the same and found it with me. We are mono for the time till we settle into our relationship. I guess I'm just not totally comfortable with the label swinger even if it is the most appropriate label. So I'm curious what the swingers think of the label and meaning?