Some of the biggest things that pulled us into the lifestyle were respect, communication, and connection. For us, being more comfortable with other people enhances the in bed experience. That comfortability is forged by bonding with others outside the bedroom. Everyone has to get along and enjoy each other's company.

Since starting many "conversations" with others on Reddit, it seems that this is not the norm. Typically, we receive low effort responses from people more interested in swapping pictures than seeing if we actually even vibe. Don't get me wrong, physical attraction does play a role. However, let's stop pretending that you never met someone, had a conversation, thought they were cute, and wanted to have sex with them without ever seeing them naked. Maybe this is purely physical for some people, but we like to build trust and friendship first.

Because of this, we believe we will have more quality experiences in person than on any of these apps. We are always down to conversate with others, as long as they actually want to talk and build a bond. Some people don't, and that's fine too. It's just not our version of the lifestyle.

What do all of you typically prefer? Are you quick to dive in based solely on physical attraction? Or do you like to build a connection and take attraction to a deeper level?