Something happened to how people interact it seems on the sites since the pandemic. Its been almost a total waste of time.

Kasidie - Was really picking up steam pre-pandemic for the upper midwest, now its very reduced in utility.

SDC - Was never great for the midwest but with Kasidie being in the dumpster for some reason, maybe things changed? Lots of time wasters, people asking to be "Friends" who are 2300 miles away and never exchanged a hello, and at least two definite picture collectors. Haven't seen such obvious collectors in a long time. I think its the system there with the gallery password making people forget who they gave access with no way to figure it out. Its not even a bad system, but it facilitates collectors.

SLS - been awful a while, poor infrastructure, horrible message system thats spent much of the last year broken.

So lots of just no responses in general but especially on Kasidie, maybe we aren't all that, but we aren't awful either. Seemed to hit it off with one couple, they invite us over, we had to change the day from Friday to Sat, they ghost us for 3 days, (and they wanted us to meet in their house). On Saturday night, when we were suppose to be there I get a text saying "sorry about the mix up last weekend, what are you doing now?"...

We never had plans for last weekend and hadn't talked to them...

????.....

Ok so that one past us lets goto SDC.

Lots of responses, one couple is realistic but perhaps that "touch" too good looking, happy to communicate, but for some reason wanted to be sure how they weren't doing much, never visit clubs, and even said "I'm not a picture collector but I'll peek now and then because who doesn't like sexy photos?" Well true, but its a swing site, after making it clear you don't get out lately, but will keep looking at our profile for nudes, not happening.

Another SDC "couple" we chatted with , who seemed fine, ghosted us when we said something about getting together. 4 weeks later they ask about the picture password not working.... I point out I assumed they weren't interested in meeting so we changed password.... crickets. Not a "oh my wife never saw" or "we've been busy but would like to..." nope just show me them titties, in not so many words.

Finally we DO meet ONE couple from SDC, newbies. Photos 20lbs out of date on both of them. He mentioned going to a party but neglected to mention it was the night we were meeting. We don't expect to play first date, especially with newbies, but we expected more than a hello ours names are, oh we have to go. It was legit, it wasn't a careful ruse to get out of a bad date, but really?

We've given up on SLS.

Now its not like we don't swing or have no luck, we've had a fantastic trip to Desire (swing wise), we have been fine at clubs, but the sites have been simply a waste of time outside of finding parties.

We've only met one "normal" swinger couple from the sites in the last year, didn't work out, but at least we didn't feel like WTF?

We're done with the sites for now.

This ringing true for anyone else?